Wednesday, September 20, 2017

Adorable bunny butt brooch


This cute one of a kind little bunny butt brooch is now available in my Etsy shop!




Monday, September 18, 2017

Married to a Mystery Man



Art by Brian Rea

On the drive from the Calgary airport to the hotel for our honeymoon, my new husband casually mentioned that he would need to find a criminal defense attorney when we got home.
“I’ll probably just plead no contest to rioting,” Alex said as we sped by the brown prairie grass. “And the resisting arrest. That’s just something they always tack on.”
I clutched the door handle of the little red rental car, feeling lightheaded and panicky. “What?” I said.
The Rocky Mountains, once so lovely in the distance, now loomed before us.
“The obstruction of justice is a trumped-up charge,” he continued, “but it’s definitely something to deal with.”
“What?” I said again.
He began to explain, in a calm and lawyerly way, what the charge meant and why it wasn’t really applicable in this case.
 “No, I mean: What in God’s name are you talking about?” That’s the clean version of what I said.
Alex explained that on the night of his bachelor party, he and a few other friends had gotten into a drunken argument with some locals in the only bar in town, apparently over a flip-flop. Someone, at some point, threw a punch, and it all went downhill from there.
He and four members of our wedding party had spent the night in jail. The others had just been put in the drunk tank, but my husband-of-a-day, claiming he was only trying to help by intervening when a friend was being hauled into the police car, had been arrested on multiple charges.
His best man had to collect A.T.M. cards from the guests to gather enough cash on a Saturday morning topost bail for him before the wedding. This was after he already had been frog-marched from the jail to the courthouse of the adorably quaint Appalachian mountain town in leg and arm shackles, chained to the other men being arraigned that morning, including his cellmate from the night before, who stood accused of attempted murder.
The cellmate had claimed self-defense.
“He kept explaining that he’d been hit with a hickory switch,” Alex said, “and it took me 10 minutes to figure out what he meant.” He seemed so delighted with the story that I began to think he might be kidding. Or at least exaggerating.
“Are you actually serious?” I said.
“Yeah,” he said, turning to me with surprise. “Are you upset?”
“Yes! I’m upset.”
“Why? I’ll have to pay a fine, but it’s not the end of the world.”
“You might go to jail in Virginia!”
“Highly unlikely.”
“Why didn’t you tell me?”
“Well, there was a chance I might not have made it to the ceremony, if the judge had decided not to grant bail. We didn’t want you to worry before the wedding.”
“We? Who is we?”
“Well, everyone else at the wedding. Everyone but you.”
Suddenly it all made sense. My older brother’s black eye. (He said he’d walked into a door.) The bruises around my younger brother’s neck. (He hadn’t even tried to make up an excuse.) My sister making me walk the long way to the hair salon on the morning of the wedding instead of the direct route past the courthouse. The fact that my bridesmaid’s husband and my sister-in-law, two people who didn’t really know each other, took off together with a lurch and a screech in my husband’s car when I waved at them on the way to the hairdresser.
Everyone had known but me.
It was too much. “Our marriage is based on a lie!” I yelled, and burst into tears.
It wasn’t a lie, of course. Not really. It was simply a lack of information. That’s an important distinction.
Back then I wasn’t yet a hospice chaplain, a job in which I spend much of my time listening to dying people’s secrets and revelations. If I had been, I would have known that not one of us ever has all the information when we get married.
The state of being married is coming to the realization that the person you have pledged your life to is, at heart, a mystery. There will always be things unknown to you.
Usually, these are the things we keep hidden, the secrets we don’t even share with the ones we love most.
At least half a dozen hospice patients have told me that their husbands were not the fathers of their children, and that they had never told anyone, including their spouse and child.
Once, it was the other way around. A husband told me that he knew his eldest child was not his, and had always known: The dates simply did not match up. He was out of the country for the war. It was not physically possible.
He loved his wife so much, though, and had always loved her and would have married her no matter what. But now, he wondered, why had she still not told him? Why, at this late hour, after all these decades of happiness and hardship together, had she still never confided in him?
And sometimes, there are things we choose not to see.
One old woman, timid and always trembling in her bed, always with the shades drawn and the light off, had no friends, no family, no one. She had moved across the country to this little town where no one knew her and she knew no one, and she wanted it that way.
Her husband, I learned, had been convicted of over 100 counts of sexual assault of children. The accusations and charges spread out across the 50 years of their marriage and even before. They had all been family members.
“I didn’t know,” she said. “I swear to you I had no idea. No one believes me. They say I must have known, must have had some idea. I swear to you — I swear to God — I didn’t know. I didn’t know him at all.”
In the end, as at the beginning, we are mysteries to each other.
The work of chaplaincy dabbles in mystery all the time. The mystery of God, the mystery of death, the mystery of life. What was it all for? What does it all mean?
Add love to that list of mysteries.
In chaplaincy, a mystery is not something that cannot be known. It’s the opposite. We say God and life and death are mysteries in theological language not because they are unknowable, but because there is so much to know that you can never know the depths of it; there is always more you can learn. They are Mysteries, with a capital M, because they are infinitely knowable. The more you learn, the more you want to know.
That’s really what falling in love is, isn’t it? Yearning to know more about a person, the amazement and delight as each layer is peeled back, the realization that you can never get enough of the one you love. Perhaps the death knell of love is not anger or even indifference; it’s losing the desire to know more about your partner.
So my marriage was not based on a lie. But like all marriages, it is a mystery. I could not know everything there was to know about Alex the day I married him, and he could not know everything about me. Neither of us could know what the future held. Neither of us could know, in that little red rental car, that I would have a baby two years later in the town in Iowa where we lived, far away from the town where we married.
We couldn’t know that I would develop drug-induced psychotic disorder from anesthesia during that birth. Couldn’t know that a psychiatrist would tell Alex that I would be disabled for the rest of my life from psychosis and that we would move back across the country to be closer to my family. Certainly could not have known that with the right help, I would get better in that new town of green hills and stone walls on Buzzards Bay, and that I would find a calling to work with the dying there.
Why, then, would any of us leap into marriage, knowing that the future is unknowable, knowing our spouse is a mystery we can never fully understand?
I suppose it’s faith. Belief that there is something deeply good in the mysterious heart of the infinitely knowable other. And hope that this goodness will be enough to face the future together. Sometimes that works out; sometimes it does not.
In the end, Alex didn’t go to jail for his bachelor party escapades. He paid a fine, just as he predicted. He still doesn’t understand why I cried all night the day after we got married.
I still believe there is something deeply good in him. I still don’t understand him at all.

By: Kerry Egan
Source: The New York Times

Saturday, September 16, 2017

Vintage Christmas jewelry!


Aren't these amazing? I found them in a pretty bad shape in an antique store in Hungary, and was obsessed with getting them in the best shape possible. Mission completed! They look adorable and are waiting for you in onecreativebunny.etsy.com . It is never too early to start Christmas shopping!

Friday, September 15, 2017

New stuff

Onecreativebunny.etsy.com is back from its vacation and I am listing amazing findings from a road trip across  Romania and Hungary. There are some amazing vintage findings waiting to be listed, some pretty new charm necklaces and a recycled polymer clay papr plane that I had a chance to finish during my trip.
Stay tuned for more!

Thursday, August 31, 2017

Labor Day sale!



Hey everyone, it's sale time! There is a big Labor day sale on Etsy, and OneCreativeBunny is part of it. You can get 10% off all items, including ones on sale. But that is not all - you can get 40% off any beauties from my "The Dot." collection. Sale ends on September 4th, so hurry up!

Tuesday, August 29, 2017

Read instead.

This adorable necklace is my own design and is made of zinc alloy TV frame and plastic impregnated piece of paper with hand written "Read instead". Hurry and catch this one of a kind necklace before it is gone!




Saturday, August 26, 2017

The Dot. collection

Hey guys! I've been working on some new stuff lately, and for the first time decided to make a little collection for fall 2017. It is called "The Dot" and it consists of 10 pairs of unique handmade stud earrings. They are all made of polymer clay and have stainless steel closure. I was inspired by space, nature and minimalism with maximum impact. It will be posted on my Etsy shop (onecreativebunny.etsy.com) in a few moments, so make sure you check "The dot. collection" section in my shop. Keep in mind that shipping is free worldwide.